Exceptional Caregivers Share Their Tips

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Posted On 06 Mar 2017 By : 

 A Place for Mom recently celebrated the stories of three exceptional caregivers: Carlen Maddux, Feylyn Lewis and Susan Hamilton. Although each of these caregivers had a very different and unique caregiving experience, they all shared similar tips about how caregivers can survive and triumph.Exceptional Caregivers Share Their Tips

Learn more from these exceptional caregivers, as they share their tips with us today.

Tips from Exceptional Caregivers

According to these exceptional caregivers, it’s important to practice these tips while caregiving:

1. Advocate. Wanting to help others doesn’t end when you’re no longer a caregiver. Caregivers Carlen Maddux, Feylyn Lewis and Susan Hamilton all get great satisfaction out of helping other caregivers, now that their caregiving role is over.

“Speak out where you can and when possible, share your story,” Lewis encourages.

2. Ask for help and support.

According to Lewis, one of the reasons she and her older brother didn’t seek out formal help and support when caring for her mom is because she “didn’t want to be a burden and didn’t want people worrying about her.”

As a 10-year-old child caregiver, she felt like no one would understand what she was going through. Now, as a leading researcher of young adult caregivers, Lewis knows that there are others out there in similar situations, and she is working to raise awareness and support for these caregivers.

3. Draw support from other caregivers, your family and friends.

For Maddux, who worked in an office during the day and cared for his wife at night, “even though I had help it was a tough road.” His children offered to give him one weekend a month off and he took it. He suggests that others caregivers reach out to family and friends and ask for short reprieves whenever possible. “I have a friend in Nashville who had a dozen friends work out a weekly schedule to help get his wife where she needed to be,” he says. “Tap into your friends for help.”

Social media is a great place to connect to other caregivers. Lewis and Hamilton suggest looking for caregiver forums, Facebook and messenger groups where you can vent in a safe space to other caregivers who understand.

4. Find local support.

For Hamilton, local support was critical when it came to caring for her mom. She leaned on the help of her local church and library groups, as well as larger organizations like the Alzheimer’s Society and A Place for Mom.

“Being a caregiver can be isolating and you can feel like you are all alone, it’s so important to make connections where you can,” Maddux says. He found support from his local church community who offered counselling and support. When Maddux’s adult children gave him a monthly reprieve from caregiving, he made use of a local monastery where he mediated, reflected and gathered his energy for the next month ahead.

5. Seek financial aid and advice.

Caregiving takes a huge financial toll, crossing economic situations and impacting families of all backgrounds and economic means. “There are many folks who can’t afford to care for their loved ones 24/7,” Maddux says.

Maddux was fortunate enough to find a local organization that helped subsidize home care for his wife, Martha, while he was at work. In addition to looking for subsidized programs, he advises caregivers to “invest in an elder care lawyer.” Maddux’s lawyer helped get him up to speed on Medicaid which covered some nursing home expenses for his wife when she was no longer able to remain at home. “I’d be flat broke if  I had to pay for that,” he says. “Don’t let caregiving destroy your financial well-being.”

6. Take care of yourself first.

All of our exceptional caregivers mentioned that self-care is easier said than done. It’s something that everyone tells caregivers to do, but in reality “self care is the last thing a caregiver has time for,” Hamilton says. “It’s so counter-intuitive, it’s a real challenge.” So, what can you do to take care of yourself if you don’t have time? “Give yourself a break and a healthy dose of reality,” Lewis advises. Caregivers are often over-critical and feel guilty when they can’t do it all. “If you don’t get it all done will there really be negative effects?” Lewis asks. Instead, she suggests that caregivers prioritize tasks and give themselves permission to not do it all.

Maddux found that keeping a journal was an important part of caring for his emotional well being. Not only did it help him keep track of research and information, it also helped him to vent and track his emotional journey. After Martha passed away, going through his journal became an important part of his grieving process.

7. Try not to isolate yourself.

There is a stigma associated with being a caregiver. This stigma leads many caregivers to hide their situation from friends and love ones, which leads to social isolation.

“Martha did not want to tell her parents, brothers and even our children about her diagnosis,” Maddux says of his wife. “It was very isolating.”

Are you an exceptional caregiver with other tips to share? We’d love to hear your suggestions and tips in the comments below.

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Kimberley Fowler is a writer and editor dedicated to improving seniors’ lives through education, activism, volunteerism and community programs. Her other passions include yoga, literature, history, education and conservation. She is active in her local community and currently volunteers with the Hamilton Naturalists’ Club. Kimberley earned a Master of Arts in English Literature and Language from the University of Windsor, an Honours Bachelor of Arts from Wilfrid Laurier University and a Bachelor of Education from the University of Toronto. ViewKimberley’s website or connect with her on Twitter @kimsfow andLinkedIn.




Aging Partners invites senior citizens and the public to attend a presentation on “The Life and Legacy of Annie Oakley” by author and speaker Charlotte Endorf at 10:30 a.m. Thursday, April 6 at the Downtown Senior Center, 1005 “O” St.   The presentation is free, but there is a $4 suggested meal contribution for ages 60 and over.  There is an $8 fee (required) for those under 60.  Meal reservations must be made in advance by calling 402-441-7154 by April 4.
Endorf’s presentation focuses on dispelling myths and revealing the real Annie Oakley, a star attraction of Buffalo Bill’s Wild West Show.  Because her shooting skills made her a champion in a man’s sport, Endorf said Oakley changed ideas about the abilities of women in the 19th century.

The presentation is sponsored by Humanities Nebraska.  More information on Endorf can be found at charlotteendorf.com.  More information on Aging Partners senior center activities is available at lincoln.ne.gov (keyword: my center news).  

Apr 4 – Lincoln Rotary Clubs Name Speedway as 25th Anniversary Salute to Business Honoree



LINCOLN, Neb. – The combined Rotary Clubs of Lincoln have selected Speedway as their 2017 “Salute to Business” honoree—and 25th anniversary recipient–for its innovation and contributions as an employer in the Lincoln community. Speedway will be recognized during a luncheon at the Cornhusker Marriott Hotel on Tuesday, April 4.

Speedway Motors is America’s Oldest Speed Shop and has been a trusted source for specialty automotive and racing parts for 65 years. Founded in Lincoln in 1952 by “Speedy” Bill Smith – a racer, hot rodder and entrepreneur – Speedway Motors has grown from a one-man storefront to a worldwide multi-channel retailer and manufacturer with a longstanding reputation for personalized expert service. Still family owned, the company is now led by “Speedy” Bill and Joyce Smith’s four sons – Carson, Clay, Craig and Jason.  

Speedway Properties is one of Lincoln’s premier commercial real estate companies and holds dozens of retail, office and industrial properties which it owns, develops and manages. With a history of redeveloping older buildings and spearheading new development, Speedway Properties has earned numerous awards and has made a significant impact on the city of Lincoln.

The Speedway campus in west Lincoln is also home to the incomparable Museum of American Speed. This world-class facility is a showcase of racing and automotive performance history and a fitting legacy for the late “Speedy” Bill and Joyce Smith.

The Rotary Salute to Business project is celebrating its 25th year. Previous honorees include Assurity Life Insurance Corporation, Bryan Health, Crete Carrier Corporation, Duncan Aviation, LI-COR Biosciences, Nelnet, Saint Elizabeth Regional Medical Center, Tabitha, Valentino’s and many other well-known, highly regarded Lincoln businesses. The 25 recipients currently employ more than 32,000 people.

The mission of Rotary International is to provide service to others, promote integrity, and advance world understanding, goodwill, and peace through its fellowship of business, professional and community leaders. Lincoln is home to four Rotary Clubs: Downtown Club 14, East, South and Sunrise.

Lieutenant Governor Mike Foley and Lincoln Mayor Chris Beutler are scheduled to attend the April 4 luncheon. Doors open at 11:30 a.m. and the program will begin promptly at noon. Individual tickets are $36; corporate tables are also available. For more information, visit www.rotary14.org/current-projects/salute-to-business.html.


April – Grief Groups and Hospice Training

Tabitha Offers Grief Groups and Hospice Training throughout April

Tabitha, your answer for Elder Care, is pleased to announce an offering of grief groups and hospice training throughout the month of April spanning across the city of Lincoln.

Grief and support groups will be available throughout the month and open to anyone in the community experiencing loss or needing support and helpful caregiver tips. 

“Loss of a Loved One Drop-in Grief Group,”- held every Monday, 10-11:30 a.m., at the Harbor Coffee Shop, 1265 S. Cotner Blvd.

“Men’s Drop-in Grief Group,”-held every other Friday, 1:30-3 p.m., at Hy-Vee-deli, 7151 Stacy Ln.

“Growing Through Grief Support Group,”- held Wednesday evenings, May 10-June 14, 6-7:30 p.m., at Tabitha, 4720 Randolph St. To register, please contact Lani Glaser, at 402.486.8546 or email Leilani.Glaser@Tabitha.org .

“Caregiver Drop-in Support Group,”-Apr. 19, 5-6:30 p.m., at Tabitha The Club–Adult Day Services, 4600 Valley Rd. Care for loved one provided at no charge. Meals are available for $5.

Tabitha also offers hospice volunteer training throughout Lancaster County. Tabitha Hospice volunteers can provide respite care, bereavement support, companionship, light housekeeping, office and clerical support while providing comfort and joy to Tabitha clients. For questions about hospice volunteering, contact Jamie Scott, Tabitha Hospice volunteer coordinator, at 402.486.8577 or email Jamie.Scott@Tabitha.org.

For general questions, please contact Tabitha at 402.486.8520 or 800.418.9335.

March 24 – LINCOLN ARTISTS’ GUILD Reception

LINCOLN ARTISTS’ GUILD FOURTH FRIDAY OPENING & RECEPTION – 5:00pm to 8:00 pm,  Friday, March 24th, 2017  at  OUT OF THE BOX, lower level, 366 North 48th Street in the MATTRESS VALUE are, upper level.
Original artwork by member artists of the Lincoln Artists’ Guild 
 Featured Artists:  Frosty Chapman 
 Special Event:  LAG pre-qualifying ANAC show.   
 Music:     August Moon 
 Gallery Hours:  Mo-Sat 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. & Sun 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.   402-817-6776 http://www.lincolnartistsguild.org <http://www.lincolnartistsguild.org/>  

OUT OF THE BOX offers high-end, high-quality building products at affordable prices. Phone 402-817-6776, Store Hours:  Mon – Sat 10 a.m. – 5 p.m.  Sun 11 a.m. – 4 p.m. 

 Like us on Facebook                   ootbreclaimed.com <http://ootbreclaimed.com>  




Senior Newspapers – nationwide.

If you have time, take a look at what other publishers are doing for Seniors. I hope the links are active. If not, go to the Source at: NAMPA – North America Mature Publishers Association

Senior Voice

Lovin’ Life After 50

Life After 50

Life After 50
BEACON Senior Newspaper

The DC Beacon

Lifestyles After 50 – Tampa
Lifestyles After 50 – St Pete/Clearwater
Lifestyles After 50 – Ocala
Lifestyles After 50 – Sarasota
Lifestyles After 50 – Ft Myers
Senior Life Florida / Space Coast

Senior News 50 and Better
Mature Focus
PrimeLife Times

Senior Life of Indiana and Cinn., OH/KY 

The Active Age
The Best Times

Today’s Transitions

The Best of Times

Fifty Plus Advocate
Prime Time Cape Cod
South Shore Senior News

The DC Beacon
The Baltimore Beacon
The Beacon – Howard County

Senior Perspectives

Good Age
The Senior Reporter

Inside Columbia Prime

Prime Time

50 Plus Lifestyles
Forever Young

Livin Out Loud

Mature Living
Senior Life of Indiana and Cinn., OH/KY

Forever Young Information – Toronto
Forever Young Information – Hamilton

50plus LIFE
Tri State Senior News

Senior Digest

Mature Lifestyles of Tennessee
The Best Times

The Moab Star

Fifty Plus
Red Bird Times
The DC Beacon

50 Plus News Magazine

Source: NAMPA – North America Mature Publishers Association


Lincoln City Libraries (LCL) invites the public to complete an online survey about how the City library system is meeting Lincoln’s needs.  The survey is being conducted in connection with the Central Library Building Program and will be available at lincolnlibraries.org until March 15.  The survey will assist LCL in identifying strategic areas for investment and improvement.
For more information about LCL, visit lincolnlibraries.org.

Survey link is here https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/C6KS3SV

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